Regrets, I’ve had a few sang Frank Sinatra and I think oh Frank you’ve got off lightly if you’ve only got a few regrets! I wish I could be one of those people who doesn’t obsess over past decision but I’m not. I can go over past mistakes again and again.
This isn’t a healthy way to live so I have been trying to stop. I know that I had to make mistakes to learn from them and I know that I will never make the same mistake again. I just wish that for once I could learn something the easy way, why do I have to always learn things the hard way!!
I’ve recently read a book that really affected me. It’s by Bronnie Ware and it’s called The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying. Bronnie was a palliative care nurse and she would nurse people who were coming to the end of their life. She found that most people have the same regrets and the number 1 regret was – I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. We get so caught up in living our lives and making sure our bills are paid that we forget about our dreams and wishes. I know it’s not always possible to just chuck everything in and go round the world (putting my amateur Psychologist hat on isn’t it interesting that I would choose travelling as my thing I’d like to do…..) but when it is possible, doesn’t this prove to us that we should try and achieve at least some of our dreams. I definitely don’t want to have a few weeks left to live and have major regrets.
I have been trying to make an effort to let go and to not go over past decisions relentlessly. With hindsight, yes of course I would have made different decisions and I wouldn’t have allowed people to have behaved the way they did but at the time I didn’t have hindsight so I made the decisions on the information I had.
How about you, do you beat yourself up over past regrets or can you move on and to quote Disney, Let it go 😉